I have noticed that I have a tendency to try to make others jealous, especially when talking to a friend or romantic partner. I would bring up someone else and emphasize their good qualities, hoping to force my friend or partner to adopt those qualities. However, I realize that this behavior is not conducive to effective communication or a strong foundation of trust and understanding with a friend or a partner.
I believe that my desire to force a certain dynamic or behavior upon a friend or partner through talking about others stems from a fear of communicating openly and honestly with them. I am afraid of their negative reactions, which suggests that there may be a lack of trust or a weak foundation in our relationship.
I am grateful for life showing me these things that I need to work on because they provide me with new perspectives about myself and help me grow as a person.
I have realized that I also have a desire to observe different dynamics of a friend or romantic partner that I may not have consciously noticed before. This desire is often emphasized through my attempts to think about, in a hypothetical scenario, or encourage a friend or romantic partner to form a connection with a person that I mention to them. While this connection may not be realistically possible between the friend or partner and the person I am mentioning, my desire to see different aspects of my friend or partner remains rooted in this desire. I want to see different sides of them because I believe that they are not being completely genuine with me.
There was a time when I doubted my capacity to love others because I didn't feel like I didnt have enough value to give to others, based on rejections I had experienced in the past. However, I have come to realize that I am 'enough' because I have the ability to change that idea about myself. I can adopt new ideas and recondition my thinking to let go of thoughts that no longer serve me, and I am grateful for that ability.
Ultimately, I am creative being, and ideas are the tools that I use to shape my perception and integrity. I am grateful for the opportunity to adopt ideas that serve me, and to shape myself into the person I choose to be.