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The Reality of Self-Judgment and Validation in Life

I feel grateful that I had the opportunity to hang out with a friend again. This experience has reminded me that some people do appreciate my worth. However, I often find myself judging myself based on those who do not value me.

Now I am grateful for the clarity and insight I have gained. It has helped me change my approach to self-judgment. Rather than basing my self-worth on experiences that do not validate me, I am learning to evaluate myself based on both validating and invalidating experiences.

This realization has helped me understand that life is a mixture of validating and invalidating experiences. While it is natural to seek validation and recognition, it is also important to acknowledge that we may not always receive it. By acknowledging this duality, I can approach my experiences with awareness and without judgment. This way, I can foster a more constructive self-relationship and learn from both positive and negative experiences, rather than just focusing on the positive ones that validate my worth.

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